Should I seek marital counseling outside of the church?

Is it best to go for marital counseling outside the assembly.

Believing that the assembly is the Lord's flock (Acts 20:28) and that He provides shepherds to care for the sheep, we expect believer's spiritual needs to be met within the assembly. To find spiritual help outside the assembly, especially in a matter so important as resolving marital difficulties, does not allow the Lord to provide the care He desires for His sheep. This places a serious responsibility on the shepherds. "All the counsel of God" (Acts 20:27) in assembly teaching will include scriptural teaching on marriage relationships. Watching for the souls of the believers (Hebrews 13:17) includes being aware when marital problems exist. Scriptural shepherding will give believers confidence that confidential, sensitive, and competent help is available. On occasion, shepherds may recognize that problems involved in a marriage go beyond spiritual problems. Physical, mental or emotional issues may require professional help outside the assembly. Where possible, such help should come from those whose principles are consistent with the assembly's. Any factor that causes a couple to hesitate in seeking help when needed is potentially disastrous and dishonoring to the Lord.

D. Oliver