When should I confront someone who has done something wrong against me?

Does Matthew 18:15 teach that a believer must seek redress when he is wronged?

Some differences between believers are trivial and require tolerance, not redress. In 1 Corinthians 6:7, Paul reproved the Corinthians for seeking redress by going to law. He asked them, "Why do ye not rather take wrong?" Taking another Christian before a court is clearly wrong. A matter taken to court cannot be called "trivial." Taking wrong rather than seeking redress is clearly the preferred option.

When should a believer go to another who has trespassed against him to get a matter made right? The word "trespass" in this text is the usual word for "sin," or "miss the mark." Hence, this is not merely a slight or difference of opinion but a matter that must be rectified so the offender may be cleansed from his sin and restored to the Lord.

Matthew 5:24 gives us the responsibility of the one who offends, "Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift." His sin makes acceptable worship impossible until the matter is rectified.

J. Slabaugh