- Parent Category: FAQs
- Category: Questions about Friends and Family Relationships
- Published on Thursday, 19 November 2009 11:05
For the wife, the Scriptures teach that fondness for her husband is a learned behavior (Titus 2:4). Romantic love is a pleasant start, but this deepening fondness is an ongoing education and the grace manifested in Christ is our ultimate teacher (Titus 2:11, 12).
Submission to her husband is enjoined on the Christian wife (Ephesians 5:22, 24; Colossians 3:18; 1 Peter 3:1). This is not a form of benevolent slavery. Submission recognizes, respects, and supports her husband's God-given role.
For the husband, the Bible says, "Husbands, love your wives" (Ephesians 5:25), to which Paul adds (Colossians 3:19) "and be not bitter (exasperated, irritated, indignant) against them." This love is not dutiful, but is a joyous devotion to understanding and meeting the varied and unique needs of his wife, to contribute to his wife's fulness in God's purpose for her.
The wife's role is to complete her husband, providing him with the insights, emotional sensitivity, and balance required for them, as one, to accomplish God's will. The husband's role is to care for his wife by giving her the security and leadership she desires. The Lord has suited each for the role He designed. The beauty of marriage is understanding these differences and working within the framework of God's design for each spouse.